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Oh, boy...
...this is, well, special. Very, very special. The End of Courtship
Quotes:
"For the first time in human history, mature women by the tens of thousands live the entire decade of their twenties — their most fertile years — neither in the homes of their fathers nor in the homes of their husbands; unprotected, lonely, and out of sync with their inborn nature."
Because God knows, if you're not having babies with a man, your life sucks.
"The change most immediately devastating for wooing is probably the sexual revolution. For why would a man court a woman for marriage when she may be sexually enjoyed, and regularly, without it? Contrary to what the youth of the sixties believed, they were not the first to feel the power of sexual desire. Many, perhaps even most, men in earlier times avidly sought sexual pleasure prior to and outside of marriage. But they usually distinguished, as did the culture generally, between women one fooled around with and women one married, between a woman of easy virtue and a woman of virtue simply. Only respectable women were respected; one no more wanted a loose woman for one's partner than for one's mother."
Because if there aren't women that you can look down on as sluts, then there's just something wrong with the world, isn't there?
"For it is a woman's refusal of sexual importunings, coupled with hints or promises of later gratification, that is generally a necessary condition of transforming a man's lust into love. Women also lost the capacity to discover their own genuine longings and best interests. For only by holding herself in reserve does a woman gain the distance and self-command needed to discern what and whom she truly wants and to insist that the ardent suitor measure up."
So, um. A woman can only know what she wants by being a tease, because she's just naturally too un-self-controlled to know if she wants to have sex.
Some people are really, really dumb.
Quotes:
"For the first time in human history, mature women by the tens of thousands live the entire decade of their twenties — their most fertile years — neither in the homes of their fathers nor in the homes of their husbands; unprotected, lonely, and out of sync with their inborn nature."
Because God knows, if you're not having babies with a man, your life sucks.
"The change most immediately devastating for wooing is probably the sexual revolution. For why would a man court a woman for marriage when she may be sexually enjoyed, and regularly, without it? Contrary to what the youth of the sixties believed, they were not the first to feel the power of sexual desire. Many, perhaps even most, men in earlier times avidly sought sexual pleasure prior to and outside of marriage. But they usually distinguished, as did the culture generally, between women one fooled around with and women one married, between a woman of easy virtue and a woman of virtue simply. Only respectable women were respected; one no more wanted a loose woman for one's partner than for one's mother."
Because if there aren't women that you can look down on as sluts, then there's just something wrong with the world, isn't there?
"For it is a woman's refusal of sexual importunings, coupled with hints or promises of later gratification, that is generally a necessary condition of transforming a man's lust into love. Women also lost the capacity to discover their own genuine longings and best interests. For only by holding herself in reserve does a woman gain the distance and self-command needed to discern what and whom she truly wants and to insist that the ardent suitor measure up."
So, um. A woman can only know what she wants by being a tease, because she's just naturally too un-self-controlled to know if she wants to have sex.
Some people are really, really dumb.
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This is possibly the singlemost offensive statement in the entire article. I think it highlights what many social conservatives consider the /true/ purpose of marriage is. It's not a joyous union of two people who want to spend their lives together. It's not a method for procreation or for raising families. It's society's vehicle for the discouragment of sexual misconduct.
And I think /that/ is where the opposition to same sex marriage comes from. Because, if you view homosexuality as sexual misconduct, then yes, same sex marriage undermines the purpose of marriage. It's just not the purpose that they'll admit publicly. (It also explains why homosexuality often gets lumped in with truly bad things like pedophilia and beastiality. They're all forms of sexual misconduct in these people's eyes, and therefore all equally bad.)
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I mean, okay. Assume that God made us out of whole cloth. Then, presumably, he included the ability to orgasm. And more than that, to have a lot of other touching and stuff feel good, even if it doesn't directly involve intercourse. Presumably, he's responsible for all of this. So what's bad about enjoying it?
You end up with this view of God that's...God is a bastard, really. God rigged up all these feelings and sensations explicitly to try and seduce us into doing things he disapproves of. WTF? (Although, admittedly, it goes well with the idea of a God who would plant ancient fossils, thousands of years before anyone had the ability to view them, for the express purpose of tricking scientists into believing their senses over the Bible. And then punish them for it.)
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If you start with, "God is a sadistic bastard," everything DOES make a LOT of logical sense from there.
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This does not negate the "God is a bastard" theory, but rather is my attempt at figuring out what kind of paralogia these folks would resort to, is pressed on the issue.