Oh, boy...

[pyrephox]

...this is, well, special. Very, very special. The End of Courtship

Quotes:

"For the first time in human history, mature women by the tens of thousands live the entire decade of their twenties — their most fertile years — neither in the homes of their fathers nor in the homes of their husbands; unprotected, lonely, and out of sync with their inborn nature."

Because God knows, if you're not having babies with a man, your life sucks.

"The change most immediately devastating for wooing is probably the sexual revolution. For why would a man court a woman for marriage when she may be sexually enjoyed, and regularly, without it? Contrary to what the youth of the sixties believed, they were not the first to feel the power of sexual desire. Many, perhaps even most, men in earlier times avidly sought sexual pleasure prior to and outside of marriage. But they usually distinguished, as did the culture generally, between women one fooled around with and women one married, between a woman of easy virtue and a woman of virtue simply. Only respectable women were respected; one no more wanted a loose woman for one's partner than for one's mother."

Because if there aren't women that you can look down on as sluts, then there's just something wrong with the world, isn't there?

"For it is a woman's refusal of sexual importunings, coupled with hints or promises of later gratification, that is generally a necessary condition of transforming a man's lust into love. Women also lost the capacity to discover their own genuine longings and best interests. For only by holding herself in reserve does a woman gain the distance and self-command needed to discern what and whom she truly wants and to insist that the ardent suitor measure up."

So, um. A woman can only know what she wants by being a tease, because she's just naturally too un-self-controlled to know if she wants to have sex.

Some people are really, really dumb.

Comments

[jackwalker.livejournal.com]

For the first time in human history, mature women by the tens of thousands live the entire decade of their twenties — their most fertile years — neither in the homes of their fathers nor in the homes of their husbands; unprotected, lonely, and out of sync with their inborn nature.

Okay, right there it's obvious that the writer has no clue whatsoever about the history of family structures. Gotta love people who think social history begins and ends with Victorian England.

[solaas.livejournal.com]

Oh, help. *speechless and appalled*

As a confirmed single, I just . . . gah. So offensive and so dumb!

[bimmer1200.livejournal.com]

As the token traditional male, allow me to respond:

Buh?!? Who is this person, and what agenda is he pushing? I though at first it was one of these anti-sex religious female types.

It seems like someone has taken the interesting tidbit that fairly large numbers of women are choosing to be homemakers and finding fulfillment doing so, to extrapolate some rather outlandish conclusions. This seems like the rhetorical flipside of 'A woman needs a man like a fish needs a bicycle'. Do most women need a man? Yes.

But equally, most men need a woman JUST AS MUCH. And to claim that we only want some of the poo-say and that's all we want is as denigrating to men as the implication that women who enjoy the sexuality are somehow less worth than their more frigid sisters.

Save for a very few who are stuck in a sort of permanent adolescence, most guys I know, even those who are/were something of a player, wanted companionship too.

I'm also tempted to throw in some Paglia and ramble about how he's simply trying to return men to being captive to the power of the female/chthonian, but I can't work myself into a proper fit of self-righteous moral indignation to go quite that far with it.

[prodigal.livejournal.com]

They need to hook this guy up with the woman who wrote The Rules, to spare the rest of humanity the prospect of having to date either of them.

[undauntra.livejournal.com]

*giggle*

Okay, in this fellow's defense, I have to say that the last quote kinda makes sense. I can believe that some woman might be so overwhelmed by the really hot, hot sex as to marry guys who are wrong for them in the long run.

*giggle*

The lovely thing about this worldview is that it so neatly pairs off men and women who deserve each other. They can have their perfect little dry and lifeless marriages; I'll be over here enjoying the company of men who put out on the first date. :D

[funambulator.livejournal.com]

Hi - I got here from a link in cpip's journal - I'm gonna post a link to that bullshit in feminist & I thought I'd let you know in case you want to pop in and see what they have to say about it.

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